“Pitah se hai naam tera, Pitah pehchaan teri, Jiye jis sahaare pe tu, Pitah se, woh saans mili, Hai pitah, rab tera” – Boss
I was born in a very dramatic way, it’s like I was enjoying in my mother’s womb and didn’t want to face the world. My father was strong-willed that her daughter is born on a specific day with the blessing of his spiritual guru. There I was lurking in the arms of the nurse when papa had come from his meditation. Tears rolled down his cheeks, feeling overjoyed by the presence of his daughter.
That is the amount of love a father has on his daughter. Father is the first man we see and meet in our lifetime, the one we aspire to become, the kind of man we want to marry; our fathers become our inspiration.
But still, there are many fathers’s in this country to prefer the death of their daughter for the sake of having a son. But today’s blog is only about the happiness a father spreads in the life of her daughter.
It’s an appreciation post for all the fathers out there, who are nothing but inspiration for the daughters to change the world. In recent studies, it has been shown that we look up to our father when it comes to guidelines in a relationship. This influence has been true and many studies which include the study from the ‘Journal of Genetic Psychology’ have shown the influence of fathers on their daughters’ relationships.
If there was a dad or other male caregiver in your early life, he probably set the first model of how a relationship with a man would be. And for better or for worse, regardless of circumstances, children love their parents/caregivers unconditionally and accept the attachment and love that is (or is not!) given in return as normal. Our first attachment patterns shape our expectations for future attachments. Overtly and also unintentionally, our parents teach us how to approach our lives and relationships – they teach us how to express and receive love, how to handle disagreements, how to process feelings, etc. Our parents shape and color the lens through which we see and organize meaning about other human interactions.
A father is the first man a girl knows when she enters the world. He will never complain, always be strict and listen to all your tantrums when you throw one! He is the one who will try hard not to cry at your wedding but will break down once you leave for your sasural.
My father is the only person to whom I look up to, I know that whatever nonsense I do, I know he will be there. He scolds me, caresses me, and makes me feel like I am the only prettiest girl in the whole world. Our parents can take wrong decisions but their intention can never be wrong. My father is the strongest person I have seen, fighting all odds still seeing the best in me. I might not have been the best for him YET, but I shall prove that I am his daughter. The society we will in, teaches us to live in a confined circle, where the girls have certain rules and regulations that we follow but thank gosh to fathers like mine and others, who stand with their daughter. They give those wings, the wing of thinking which the powerful of all. We are allowed to have a free mind, free thinking, we can walk freely knowing that if we fall they will be there to pick us up.
I remember when I was 6 years old, I was cycling and my cycle tripped, I fell. I could see my father and mother watching from the balcony. I wailed and cried, thinking that they would come down and pick me up and wipe the tears. My mother did run and said that she was coming, but my father stopped her, saying let her pick herself. I did, washed the wound and started cycling again. That day, I knew that living with a father like this will teach me the toughness of life.
I am proud of my father.
Proud of all the fathers that give wings to their daughter. Keep giving them, your love and power.
BE THE CHANGE TO SEE THE CHANGE.