Haath mai chudiya phen lo!!

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“haath mai chudiya phen lo agr ye kaam ni kr sakte toh and ghr par baith jao” – how often do we hear our elders say this line to us maybe to show that our weakness has been defined by the bangles we were in our hands.

But have we ever realized that why do we say this line?

Why does it have to be exclaimed that the bangles wearing hands are the sign of sheer weakness?

Why do we always have to make the women look like a weaker sex in the battle of the society?

We have been living in the same myth for centuries that women are the weaker sex than the man. We are made to listen to the atrocities of the man.

For the millennia we had been seeing the battle of the sexes. I agree with the fact that men are stronger than women in doing any physical task that has been given to them but how does that show that they can overpower women in any sort of way.

But the truth is the Superman is the one who has rippling abs and bulging biceps and who saves the damsel in distress even though WonderWoman takes the cinemas by the storm.

Since the purans or the Mahabharata or any mythological story, we see that the damsel has been either tortured by the manliness or the beauty of the damsel has taken over the beholder, but what we all fail to see in all these stories is the ego of the man that has been conquered by the wittiness of the words by the damsel. The debate that we have over the word feminism is not new to us.

Feminism has become the most searched words in the Merriam Webster dictionary but what does this word actually mean is , the range of political movements, ideologies, and social movements that share a common goal: to define, establish, and achieve political, economic, personal, and social equality of sexes. This includes seeking to establish educational and professional opportunities for women that are equal to such opportunities for men.

Feminism has nothing to do with men and it has nothing to with women, it has everything to do with the factor of equality to the society and to establish the same. The phrase that I talk about today has prevailed in the society for many years now. So does this all mean that everything that the women wears or has accepted it as her own symbolizes the weaker sex? We have been raised to think that women are the oppressed class and everything related to them also shows the weakness within, so these words come in handy to boost up the male ego or as an encouragement for the men. 

I have the names of the 5 most powerful women in India:-

  1. Chanda Kochhar, CEO, ICICI Bank

Leading Indian ladies on the list Chandra Kochhar ranked at 32 in the Forbes list, this year. Born in Jodhpur and raised in Jaipur, she completed her schooling from St. Angela Sophia School, Jaipur and moved to Mumbai, to complete her bachelors from Jai Hind College. After graduating in 1982, she studied cost accountancy from Institute of Cost Accounts of India and acquired a master’s degree in management studies from Jamnalal Bajaj Institute of Management Studies.

  1. Roshni Nadar Malhotra, Executive Director and CEO of HCL Enterprise

Ranked at 57 in the Forbes list, Roshni Nadar Malhotra is the Executive Director and the CEO of HCL Enterprise, is the only child of HCL’s founder, Shiv Nadar. A trained classical musician too, Roshni grew up in Delhi, studied at Vasant Valley School and graduated from Northwestern University majoring in Communication with a focus on Radio, TV & Film.

  1. Kiran Mazumdar, Shaw chairman and managing director of the Biocon Limited

Born on 23 March 1953, Kiran Mazumdar-Shaw is the chairman and managing director of Biocon Limited, a biotechnology company based in Bengaluru and the chairperson of IIM-Bangalore.

  1. Shobhana Bhartia, Chairperson and Editorial Director of the Hindustan group

Born on 23 March 1953, Kiran Mazumdar-Shaw is the chairman and managing director of Biocon Limited, a biotechnology company based in Bengaluru and the chairperson of IIM-Bangalore.

  1. Priyanka Chopra

The Indian actor, singer, film producer and philanthropist, first rose to fame after winning the Miss World 2000 pageant. She is also one of India’s highest-paid actors. She bagged numerous awards, including one National Film Award and five Filmfare Awards. The Government of India conferred upon her the prestigious Padma Shri, the fourth highest civilian award in 2016. Time Magazine featured her on the 100 most influential people in the world list.


These women are the same who must have worn the bangle at some point in their life and they have successfully proved that they wear bangles doesn’t mean that they are the weaker sex.

Telling someone to wear bangles because are unable to do a certain task is the slap on the face all the woman who have proved themselves in the society and broke the stereotype and stigma of being the weaker sex.


Who has bestowed us with so much of power that we speak such language of disgust?

Or do we take these statements as the ego boost?

The war of feminism is not with the people but the mindset, which has been overlooked by the society and has been encouraged to speak the fowl. The only thing that I have learnt in many years is that nothing is as fragile as the man’s ego.

So whenever someone says this line be proud, have faith in yourself and think about the woman who creates the world and nurtures the core of the society, it does not make you weak, it enriches the power.

Power to withheld pain and serenity and still be beautiful.




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